A must-have resource for anyone who lives or works with young kids, with an introduction by Adele Faber, coauthor of How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk, the international mega-bestseller The Boston Globe dubbed “The Parenting Bible.”
For over thirty-five years, parents have turned to How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk for its respectful and effectivesolutions to the unending challenges of raising children. Now, in response to growing demand, Adele’s daughter, Joanna Faber, along with Julie King, tailor How to Talk’s powerful communication skills to children ages two to seven.
Faber and King, each a parenting expert in her own right, share their wisdom accumulated over years of conducting How To Talk workshops with parents and a broad variety of professionals. With a lively combination of storytelling, cartoons, and fly-on-the-wall discussions from their workshops, they provide concrete tools and tips that will transform your relationship with the young kids in your life.
What do you do with a little kid who…won’t brush her teeth…screams in his car seat…pinches the baby...refuses to eat vegetables…throws books in the library...runs rampant in the supermarket? Organized according to common challenges and conflicts, this book is an essential emergency first-aid manual of communication strategies, including a chapter that addresses the special needs of children with sensory processing and autism spectrum disorders.
This user-friendly guide will empower parents and caregivers of young children to forge rewarding, joyful relationships with terrible two-year-olds, truculent three-year-olds, ferocious four-year-olds, foolhardy five-year-olds, self-centered six-year-olds, and the occasional semi-civilized seven-year-old. And, it will help little kids grow into self-reliant big kids who are cooperative and connected to their parents, teachers, siblings, and peers.
About the Author
Joanna Faber is the author, along with Julie King, of the book, How To Talk When Kids Won’t Listen, as well as the bestselling book How To Talk So Little Kids Will Listen, which has been translated into 22 languages worldwide. Joanna and Julie created the companion app, HOW TO TALK: Parenting Tips in Your Pocket, as well as the app Parenting Hero. Joanna also wrote a new afterword for the thirtieth anniversary edition of the classic book, How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids WIl Talk, coauthored by her mother, Adele Faber. Joanna contributed heavily to her mother’s book, How to Talk So Kids Can Learn, at Home and in School, with her frontline experience in the classroom as a bilingual special education teacher in West Harlem. Joanna lectures and conducts workshops across the US and internationally for parents, educators, and other professionals who work with children. She and her husband raised three sons in the Hudson Valley region of New York, along with dogs, cats, and an assortment of chickens. Visit her at How-to-Talk.com.
Julie King is the author, along with Joanna Faber, of the book, How To Talk When Kids Won't Listen, as well as the bestselling book, How To Talk So Little Kids Will Listen, which has been translated into 22 languages worldwide. Julie and Joanna created the companion app, HOW TO TALK: Parenting Tips in Your Pocket, as well as the app Parenting Hero. Julie has been educating and supporting parents since 1995. In addition to consulting with individual parents and couples, she speaks and leads workshops online and in-person for schools, nonprofits, businesses and parent groups across the US and internationally. Julie received her AB from Princeton University and a JD from Yale Law School. She lives with her husband in the San Francisco Bay Area where they are visited often by their her three grown children. Visit her at JulieKing.org, on Facebook @FaberandKing, or on Instagram @howtotalk.forparents.
“Charming and highly useful.” —Jessica Winter, The New Yorker
“Relatable and authentic… [Faber’s and King’s] creative ideas will help parents feel they are not alone in dealing with little runaways, arguments over tooth brushing, tattling, and numerous child-rearing dilemmas.” —Publishers Weekly
“[Faber & King] pick up where esteemed mom Adele Faber (How To Talk So Kids Will Listen) left off… Faber zeroes in on the most common (and irritating) things and tactics little ones employ, and provides caregivers with a clear and supportive path to holding their own. … The ‘How To Talk’ books are treasures to read. All libraries should acquire and recommend with gusto.” —Library Journal
“Wonderful...reader-friendly [and] a truly indispensable book for parents and for anyone else who interacts with young children.” —Work and Family Life
“Experienced parent educators Faber and King...share tips and stories for coping with sticky little-kid-related problems... parents looking for peace, harmony, and cooperation will find a wealth of options in this guide.” —Booklist
“Faber and King have done the impossible! This guide to how to talk so little kids will listen is BRILLIANT. Every parent needs to read this book because it teaches skills that are solidly based on research. The book is magnificent.” —John Gottman, author of Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child
“Yes, the How to Talk tools work for young children! It is never too soon to reflect children's emotions, acknowledge their wishes, and see things from their perspective. Faber and King are like wise, calm friends that arrive just in time to help you through the toughest moments, with no judging or shaming. In fact, they have just as much empathy for parents as they have for children. They understand that punishment and control are dead ends, and they offer a clear path towards cooperation and connection.” —Lawrence J. Cohen, Ph.D., author of Playful Parenting
“This helpful gem of a book guides parents and other caregivers to tune in to the internal worlds of young children to allow their minds to be seen and respected. With practical suggestions and useful illustrations, the authors clearly convey these important steps to guiding our children's development. Cultivating such mindsight for our youth is essential to creating a kinder and more resilient next generation.” —Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. author of Mind: A Journey to the Heart of Being Human and Executive Director, Mindsight Institute